that is my mom's motto. she will omit first and lie second but she will keep you away from any truthts. a coworker has a friend whose mother died. the girl, when dealing with her mom's affairs, found outt hat her mom had stopped opening mail about 3 years ago. the mother had kept it all but not opened any of it--not the bills, not the paychecks. so the house is in foreclosure. that is what i fear when my mother dies. i willbe left saddled with all her shit. i mean on the one side--there is no house or anythign else. i guess i want to know i have enough money to bury her. hell i don't even know what her final wishes are or where i would find out that info.
i just tld my mom we would no longer be discussing my finances, but I let her know that she would be named as a creditor in my bankruptcy. she got upset. now she's saying she just gave me the money. but some of the checks distinctly said loan. and the only way i can make sure my mom can't come after me later on (legally, because emotionally she'll always have that hold until i can pay her back) is to name her. but i suspect she has some financial issues of her own.
so now i will ahve to explain to the lawyer that my mom is fucking A crazy and that i can't name her as a creditor regardless of the fact that legally i have to.
and i am getting call several times a day from the one credit card company. i think they have very quickly figured out that they are not going to get their money.
and my father is back in the hospital. funny how i dind't even know he was discharged from the last visit. see they can call when he goes in but not when he cgoes home. i think he wants me to rush up there and fawn over him. but those days are over and done. the last time i spent time with him sealed that fate. i can fawn over him over the phone because i can still multitask while doing it.
my dad willt ake his secrets to the grave too. i ahve long ago realized that when it comes to my parents i wil never know anything but their truths.
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my advice is to always accept litigation over emotion if you don't plan on having to re-live any of these proceedings... your mother may not want to be named but she must if you intend to CYA, if that's in fact your concern.
if it's not, forget what i said and carry on...
btw: thanks for the comments, pandora is in my bookmarks.
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